Microblog Monday, because I want to be one of the cool kids!

Hello all!  I am still reading everyone, I just haven't had much to say here.  We still have no plans for any more interventions (although I had a dream last night that I was 40 and pregnant with a donor egg baby! Never say never lol!).  Still have fingers crossed for a miracle but no such luck.  I think we already got our miracle!  Here is a quick pipsqueak update!
- she started nursery school for 3 mornings a week.  She loves it and her teachers say she is doing great.  Beginning of week 3 began crying a little when I leave her though and it makes me soooo sad!  Her teachers tell me she stops as soon as I leave.
- PS has peepeed on the potty one time, and that was after sitting there with the iPad for 2 hours drinking chocolate milk.  We have made a sticker potty chart which she seems obsessed with, but truthfully she doesn't seem to know when she's about to pee or poop.  Like it always surprises her.  So I'm assuming she's not completely ready?  She's 2.75.  Any tips moms?
- she still sleeps in her crib, 11-12 hours at night and 1-3 hour nap in the afternoon.  I still give her a paci but only for sleep.  Her dentist told me to take that away at age 3 but I don't think I'm gonna....I love sleep too much!!! Maybe by age 4?
-she doesn't hit or bite anyone, which I am very proud of.  So many kids do and I think it's luck that our daughter doesn't.
-she can count to 11, count items up to 4, knows most of her colors, and sing her ABCs.

-best news - a friend IRL who has battled unknown infertility for 5 years is pregnant!  She had a miscarriage after IVF #1 but was successful after #2.  SO incredibly happy for her!!!! It's the first pregnancy besides my own that I have 100% completely celebrated since being diagnosed infertile.  Good for my soul!!!!!

If I think of anything interesting to blog about here I will, I miss this space.

Bad news, good news

I got an email from the nurse coordinator at the clinic we were seen at.  It was very insensitive, said his hormones were normal, sperm count too low for IUI, we should make an appt for IVF.  Even though we've said over and over again no more IVF. I then asked for the detailed results.  They were crazy!   The highest DH's sperm count has ever been was 6 million/ml, and that is on fertile aid.  Usually 4-5 million/mil wih like 10-15% motility.

This sample showed 11 million/ml!!  Normal viscosity, normal volume (2ml), motility 30%, morphology 1%.   So obviously not normal but more than twice as good as usual!  Ans this is after decidedly unhealthy living - no vitamins, started on an antidepressant, drinking more than normal, and occasional cigarettes.  All I can attribute to the increase is perhaps DH was vitamin D deficient?  He used to be so pale and got almost no sun in the Midwest.  Here he has a slight tan and gets much more sun.

His WBC was high in the semen sample...normal is less than 1 million, he had 3 million.  I've emailed the dr asking if he needs antibiotics but haven't heard back.

His testosterone was normal, but in the lower levels.  According to this dr he wouldn't benefit from clomid.  Oh well,  I wasn't sure I was comfortable with that anyway.

So I guess this leaves us with get DH some vitamins and cross our fingers.  Most likely never going to happen, but at least we looked into it!

Our visit with the andrologist

We had a consult with the andrologist (male reproductive specialist) today.  We had a new semen analysis and hormonal panel drawn on DH, should have those results next week.  The plan is 3 months of clomid then reassess.  The dr seemed to think we could probably get his counts high enough for an IUI.   DH and I both are highly skeptical but figure we may as well try the clomid and see what happens.

This dr works at an IVF clinic.  I was really expecting him to push us in that direction but I started the appointment by saying, "We absolutely know we don't want to do ivf agin just so you know."  Surprisingly the dr never again mentioned it!

DH probably won't start the clomid until the fall, as we have so much travel this summer.  

It's been awhile!

Aside from infertility life has been amazing....we are just wrapping up a European beach vacation, Pipsqueak has been growing leaps and bounds (started nursery school, ballet lessons, can sing her ABCs, count to 10, and is a just an overall joy), and our family of 3 is spending a lot more time together than we were able to in the US.  We are very glad we took the risk and moved here.  Life seriously feels like a holiday to me much of the time (well except for the heat which is beginning....so we are about to be shut-ins for  the next  4-5 months - luckily we have 2.5 month travels to the US planned!).

Our thoughts on using ART for another attempt at a second child have wavered back and forth, often with DH and I feeling opposite at any given time.  About a month ago I really researched IVF over here and emailed the coordinator for more information.   The cost seems reasonable - 37,000 dirhams for one cycle including absolutely everything - meds, u/s, ICSI, anesthesia.  That amounts to $10,000 USD.   I like the all up front aspect, no surprises.   I also like that they allow kids at appointments...I know that's not appreciated by women trying for their first but having no family here that would be soooo important.

My biggest concern on IVF here is that it is still illegal to freeze embryos.   Why I do not know.  I mean I know it is because of religion...they are very antiabortion here.   However to me....destroying good day 5 blastocysts seems like abortion to me, am I wrong?  How is that different?  Doesn't it seem more morally sound to freeze those embryos to give them a chance at life later rather than incinerate them?  Not that I judge anyone who does destroy embryos, or have an abortion, but I am just trying to wrap my mind around the logic here.  Personally I would not have an abortion unless my life was in danger/baby had a terminal illness, etc.

Okay, I didn't mean for this post to turn into a moral debate (within myself! LOL).

Basically I wouldn't feel good if I had embryos which showed a chance at life get destroyed.   We always said we would transfer any embryo that had potential.   Well both IVFs we've had 2 blasts and transferred both.   And each time there were no embryos with the potential for life that were left over.   The only embryos destroyed were ones that had stopped growing or were severely behind by day 7.

If history repeated itself this no freezing policy would not matter obviously.  But if by some miracle we had 6 great blastocysts I would just have a nervous breakdown.

The law has changed a few times I guess.   So basically we don't feel comfortable moving forward unless the law changes back.

And besides all of this, neither of us are 100% that we would do another IVF anyway.  For me I of course would do it if there was a guarantee of success.  But seriously out of I think 21 embryos we've only had 4 blasts and 1 baby.   Not great odds.

So back to me thinking I was all ready to do it last month.   That same week I signed up Pipsqueak for nursery school.  She goes now 1 morning a week and will go in September 3 mornings a week.  The cost for 3 mornings is 7000 dirhams a term.  3 terms a year so 21,000 dirhams a year, i.e. Approx almost 2/3 of the cost of one IVF cycle.  We were discussing whether we can afford this nursery school and suddenly I was like this is freaking insane.   We should spend the money on our child that is here, living and breathing, not on more drugs, surgeries and heartache trying to conceive another baby.

So we made the decision we will not be doing IVF again (caveats we discussed are a sudden huge windfall of money or moving to a place/job with IVF insurance coverage).  But no more will we take money from our child for IVF.

We are going to get DH a urology appt to repeat hormone levels and discuss clomid/arimidex/hormone treatment.   We figure this option probably won't work but is comparatively low in cost, risk, heartache potential.

The thing that still gets me though, and leaves that sliver of a doubt is that we could totally afford another cycle.   Believe me I know that means we are blessed!  Moving to the Middle East, leaving all of our family and friends, was mostly tolerable because we are able to build a nest egg for the future.  So we could pay for one cycle and it wouldn't affect our day to day life at all.  It would just take that much out of savings.   But we've done that once already.   We already spent some savings and tried IVF again, and it didn't work.   I'm hoping that because we did try once more that I won't years from now regret not doing it again.  It's hard to imagine that I probably won't ever be pregnant or breast-feed a baby again.

And truthfully....I don't think our family is incomplete without another child.  She is so amazing, DH and I looked at each other while out to eat this week and just both melted because she was being so cute.   That made us voice something, that we would give anything for another child like her!  Ugh.  This post has clearly gone nowhere.   Just wanted to check in and let you into the mind of crazy woman.  Our due date from our second pregnancy would be in a week and a half, and so many bloggers that got pregnant when I did are about to pop....that's probably why my head is so fucked up.  Thanks for listening!

CD 1

Because, obviously.   

It's just not fair

Please give support to the lovely Turiatoday.  She just found out she lost her much loved and much wanted 2nd baby.  She has always been so supportive of me and my heart is breaking for her.

What the hell, right?

So I have 6 boxes of Clearblue Easy ovualtion predictor kits.  I noticed the other day that they expire this September so for the fun of it I used it this month.  It's the nice kind with the smiley face when you get your LH surge.  I was inordinately happy to get the smiley face.  I think just the positive reinforcemnt on a pee stick is good for the soul. LOL.  We did the BD at the appropriate time, I even elevated my hips afterward.  I got the giggles while doing so.  It reminded me of being a 27 year-old, naive newlywed.  This June will not only be our 5 year wedding anniversary, it will be 5 years since we pulled the goalie.  And in all that time the only pregnancies were after IVF.  You'd really think a 5mil/ml sperm count would be enough after 5 years of unprotected, relatively young sex wouldn't you?  So clearly this is just for fun and I doubt anything will come of it.  But hey it's free.  And I love the smiley face.

I'm also taking prenatals, fish oil, and have recently started eating pescetarian (no meat except seafood, hoping it lowers my slightly above normal cholesterol but also read it increases fertility?).  We are talking about DH maybe seeing a urologist here for a second opinion.  4 years ago when he first saw one the only real option was clomid.  I've read a lot lately about arimidex and injections of some sort.

As I end this rambling, short, TMI post I wonder why I wrote it?  I guess it just feels wrong to do anything in the TTC realm without sharing with the interwebz.