SO....yet another post in which I write that we "probably are going to be moving ahead with dIUI".
Has anyone nominated me for a Pulitzer yet?
But I digress.
DH and I have been communicating more recently. I think this is partly due to the counseling sessions and partly due to the passage of time...infertility is no longer a hemorrhaging open wound, it is now a large scabbed area that only bleeds when I pick at it (or when stupid fertile people pick and pick and pick at it). We are both in agreement that dIUI still makes the most sense. When? We are still not sure, depends on the success of DH's doctoral thesis. BUT I just realized there is something so obvious that I can obsess over in the meantime. DONOR PROFILES! OMG! AM I AN IDIOT? SO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT!
Sorry for the caps, I know it is still early but I shot out of bed like a rocket when I realized this this morning.
Now, I have perused a few profiles before...back when we were first diagnosed with mfi. I was kind of like a blog lurker...just there for information and drama, not for anything I would actually need in my life. Now it might actually be relevant! Like my baby daddy genetic info! For realz!
Umm, those last few lines are now kind of scaring me so just disregard. It is just so exciting to think that there will come a month (Feb at the earliest, July/August at the latest) in which I could actually get knocked up! For all the trying and different positions, and preseed, and ovulation sticks, and fertility microscopes (please don't buy this it was a joke), and BD when the inlaws were in the next room, and not drinking (gasp!) during the 2ww, and obsessively tracking every cramp...all of those months were for naught!!!!! It was not to be and almost impossible for us to have succeeded. When we move forward with dIUI I know the very first month I have like a 30% chance of getting KU (is that right? I think I read that somewhere). VERY COOL. I have been out of the actively ttc circle for so long now that charting cycles seems so awesome. To be doing ANYTHING seems amazing.
So now to the meat and potatoes of this post....to all of you that have used donor sperm or donor eggs....How do you choose a donor? Try to find physical characteristics close to your spouse? Personality traits? Career/education? A donor that looks like you so no one tries to make the kid out to look like your spouse?
Also, what sperm bank do you use? Does the RE's office tell you? How many vials should you buy?
AHHHHH!
Please help. xoxo
Has anyone nominated me for a Pulitzer yet?
But I digress.
DH and I have been communicating more recently. I think this is partly due to the counseling sessions and partly due to the passage of time...infertility is no longer a hemorrhaging open wound, it is now a large scabbed area that only bleeds when I pick at it (or when stupid fertile people pick and pick and pick at it). We are both in agreement that dIUI still makes the most sense. When? We are still not sure, depends on the success of DH's doctoral thesis. BUT I just realized there is something so obvious that I can obsess over in the meantime. DONOR PROFILES! OMG! AM I AN IDIOT? SO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT!
Sorry for the caps, I know it is still early but I shot out of bed like a rocket when I realized this this morning.
Now, I have perused a few profiles before...back when we were first diagnosed with mfi. I was kind of like a blog lurker...just there for information and drama, not for anything I would actually need in my life. Now it might actually be relevant! Like my baby daddy genetic info! For realz!
Umm, those last few lines are now kind of scaring me so just disregard. It is just so exciting to think that there will come a month (Feb at the earliest, July/August at the latest) in which I could actually get knocked up! For all the trying and different positions, and preseed, and ovulation sticks, and fertility microscopes (please don't buy this it was a joke), and BD when the inlaws were in the next room, and not drinking (gasp!) during the 2ww, and obsessively tracking every cramp...all of those months were for naught!!!!! It was not to be and almost impossible for us to have succeeded. When we move forward with dIUI I know the very first month I have like a 30% chance of getting KU (is that right? I think I read that somewhere). VERY COOL. I have been out of the actively ttc circle for so long now that charting cycles seems so awesome. To be doing ANYTHING seems amazing.
So now to the meat and potatoes of this post....to all of you that have used donor sperm or donor eggs....How do you choose a donor? Try to find physical characteristics close to your spouse? Personality traits? Career/education? A donor that looks like you so no one tries to make the kid out to look like your spouse?
Also, what sperm bank do you use? Does the RE's office tell you? How many vials should you buy?
AHHHHH!
Please help. xoxo
